我们能让这世界变得更美好么？这句话本身就是一个错误的假设，认为这世界不好。反过来，我们应该说世界就是这样的，没有什么绝对的好与不好。这是我们选择的生活方式，也是我们喜欢的生活方式。换个角度看待事物：接受并试着理解。接受这世界，你会快乐。

       “There isnothing either good or bad,but thinking makes it so.”—WilliamShakespeare, “Hamlet”

          One of thegreatest sources of unhappiness, in my experience, is thedifficulty we have in accepting things as they are.

         Withoutjudgment, without wishing for otherwise.

         When we seesomething we don't like, we wish it could be different — we cry outfor something better. That may be human nature, or perhaps it'ssomething that's ingrained in our culture.

         The root of theunhappiness isn't necessarily that we want things to be different,however: it's that we decided we didn’t like it in the first place.We've judged it as bad, rather than saying, "It's not bad or good,it just is."

         An example: Inmy recent post, A Beautiful Method to Find Peace of Mind,quite a few commenters thought my outlook was negative,pessimistic, or fatalistic … because I said you should expectpeople to mess up, expect things to go differently than youplanned, and that you should embrace that.

        It's toonegative to expect things to go wrong, they said. However: it'sonly negative if you see it as negative. If you judge it asbad.

        Instead, youcould accept it as the way the world works — as the way thingsactually are. And try to understand why that is, and embrace it. Asit is.

        This can beapplied to whatever you do: whether it be how other people act atwork, how politics works and how depressing the news media can be.Accept these things as they are, and try to understand why they'rethat way.

        It'll save youa lot of grief, because you'll no longer say, "Oh, I wish thingsdidn't suck!"

       Does it meanyou can never change things? Not at all. But change things notbecause you can't accept things as they are, but because you enjoythe process of change, of learning and growing.

        Can we makethis world a better place? Again, that's assuming that it's a badplace right now. But instead, you could say the world is just whatit is — and that's neither good nor bad. You can say that you'llcontinue to try to do things to help others, to grow as a person,to make a difference in this world — not because you're such a badperson now, or the world sucks, but because that's the path youchoose to take, because you enjoy that path.

        As you catchyourself judging, and wishing for different — and we all do it —try a different approach: accept, and understand. It might lead tosome interesting results.

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